Dear Introvert, Don’t Take Pride in Your Quietness

Dear Introvert,

Do you ever wonder if you’ll get over struggling to speak up? Do you ever wonder if you could be more talkative? Do you ever wonder if you’ll stop being fearful of saying the wrong thing which sometimes paralyzes you from talking at all?

If that’s you, know that you’re not alone. I have asked myself those questions numerous of times.

I don’t like initiating conversations.

Talking in groups of more than 2 people is a struggle.

Long conversations drain me, even with my favorite people.

I would rather express my feelings through writing than verbally.

I’m the type of person who likes to keep to herself when possible. Sometimes I like to blend in the background and not be noticed at all. Then sometimes, I dislike it when I’m trying to participate in a group conversation, and I get talked over because I’m not as loud as the other people.

Being more quiet is hard.

You know what annoys me though? People taking pride in the fact that they are an introvert. It’s almost as if they find their identity in “being quiet.”

As Christians, we are not to find our identity in how we describe ourselves or our personality because that is not what defines us. We are to find our identity in Christ because He is the One who shapes and molds us. Like Galatians 2:20 says,

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

No matter our personality, no matter if we lack certain social skills, we are still to live our lives for Christ whole-heartedly because He is the One we now serve.

God doesn’t call us to be quiet, but to be bold for Him.

Sure, holding conversations is not always my favorite thing in the world to do, however, I mustn’t let that get in the way of letting my light shine and sharing with others the Good News.

When we take pride in our quietness, we allow ourselves to make excuses to avoid certain things and that’s where things go wrong.

“I can’t witness to that person because I don’t want to strike up a conversation.”

“I don’t want to encourage that person because they may not listen to me.”

When God is calling us to do things, we don’t ignore them because we don’t feel comfortable. That is purposefully disobeying God’s command. And the thing is, we’re always going to be asked to do uncomfortable things because in this day and age, work that is of God isn’t accepted. That is why we must ask God for the strength and desire to do what He calls us to do.

And don’t forget, you are still a work in progress, and He’s not done working yet. But don’t let this anxiety spike up in a way that hinders you from glorifying Christ with your life.

Dear Introvert, don’t take pride in your quietness, but instead, take pride in being a Christ follower.

Heart check: How can you let go of your identity in introversion to live for Christ?

To God be the glory,

10 thoughts on “Dear Introvert, Don’t Take Pride in Your Quietness

  1. That’s a beautiful reminder and something I’ve been learning over the past six months since I started working. Talking to people is extremely hard and tiring but if I can share my love for life through Christ with even one customer in the checkout line just by listening and initiating that conversation…then it’s a great day!
    I find that when I’m totally stressing out by being surrounded by chatty people or don’t want to talk that praying about it often pulls me out of my slump and gives me the will to jump back in there.
    Thanks for sharing Heaven! (Also, I have a cousin named Heaven…random, but I couldn’t help but mention it.)

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  2. Wow, such an amazing post! I’m not really an introvert, but I’m also not really an extrovert either. I guess I need to work on spreading God’s light a little more and letting go of some of the nervousness and shyness I feel around people at times. Thank you, Heaven!

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  3. Thank you so much for sharing this, Heaven! Being an introvert myself, I can totally relate to what you said. I needed this reminder today. Praise God!

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